These are the same steps our staff use when they help someone. "They" means the person who needs help: you, or someone you are helping. Go in order, and call ahead when you can.
1First, make sure no one is in danger
You can ask"Has your partner ever hit, pushed, choked or threatened you? Do you feel afraid at home?"
You can ask"Does your partner control your money, your phone or where you go?"
If yes, this is not just fighting. Use the guide "A woman (maybe with children) has no safe place or is leaving an abuser".
El Refugio
El Refugio 24-hour crisis hotline (local DV shelter)
575-538-2125
Silver City (address shared by phone) · 24/7
National Domestic Violence Hotline
24/7 domestic violence hotline (call, text, chat)
1-800-799-7233
· 24/7
2Listen and help them cool down
You can say"It's good that you both want to work on this."
You can ask"What do you fight about most? Money, drinking, kids, jobs, where to live?"
3Find a counselor
Western New Mexico University - Family Counseling Center
Low-cost counseling
575-538-6343
Glaser Hall, 513 W. 12th St., Silver City · Mon-Fri 8:00-5:00
Winborn Wellness and Counseling
Counseling for children, teens, families and adults (Silver City office)
575-694-5478
315 N Hudson St #8, Silver City
Southwest Counseling Center (formerly Border Area Mental Health Services)
Outpatient mental health and psychiatry
575-388-4497
315 S. Hudson St., Ste. 12, Silver City · Call for hours
Silver Health CARE
Behavioral health counseling
575-538-2981
1600 E. 32nd St., Silver City · Weekdays 8:00-5:00
Open Path Collective
Low-cost therapy network ($40-$70 sessions, online or in person)
· By appointment
Focus on the Family
Free Christian counseling consultation by phone (marriage and family)
855-771-4357
At the Gospel MissionPeer support counselors can talk with them. Prayer is there if they want it.
4Work on the stress behind the fights
Al-Anon / Alateen
Al-Anon family groups (Silver City and Arenas Valley)
300 W. College Ave. (First United Methodist Church), Silver City · Mon 12pm New Hope AFG, First Methodist Church, 300 W College Ave (side door, west side); Wed 6pm, Valley Community Church, 19 Racetrack Rd, Arenas Valley; Fri 5:30pm women's group, 300 W College Ave (also on Zoom)
5If they decide to separate
Grant County District Court (Sixth Judicial District) - Clerk's Office
Domestic relations mediation (parenting plans)
575-538-3250 ext. 2
201 N. Cooper St. (Grant County Courthouse), Silver City · Clerk's office Mon-Fri 8am-4pm
Western New Mexico University - Early Childhood Programs
Parenting Apart class (required for divorcing parents)
575-538-6805
513 W. 12th St. (Portable), Silver City
This guide is general information only, not medical, legal or other professional advice. Places and rules change, so please call before you go. In an emergency, call 911; in a mental health crisis, call or text 988. Disclaimer
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Questions, or want someone to walk through this with you? The Silver City Gospel Mission, 111 S. Texas St., Silver City,
575-388-5071, weekdays 9:00am-1:45pm. Everyone is welcome.